Lovelines

A girl loves me so much and was very caring. In the beginning she always call and visit me on a regular basis but nowadays she rarely call, visit or text me as well she is not caring like before anymore.  I wonder if she still loves me.

Soriba

It is like that sometimes. You can not judge the book by the cover, that she does not call and text like before does not mean that she does not love you any more. You can only add it to your observation before you can arrive on conclusion.

That is you have to observe her behaviors towards you (though you said she is no more caring), her response and the way she talk to you. It is your in-depth observation that will reveal that she is no more interested or have feeling for you. Oh tell her that brief is life but love is long so let her know how deeply you love her. Good luck!

Lovelines

It is over 1 year that I have been chatting with a babe; still she cannot understand my feeling. I am frustrated; I don’t know what to do.

Baldeh

Your text did not sound as if you ever told her that you love her. Chat is different from approach a girl. So if you are interested in her you better express your feeling and tell her that you want her as your lover girl. Without telling her you will remain with your feeling while she will have attention for someone that is attracted to her. So you need to be confidence do not hide your feeling. Good luck!

She requests for credit

Lovelines

I just won a lady’s heart two days ago and now she called me and wanted me to send her credit. Do you think she is not a money lover?

Sundab

Her fast request does not mean that she is a money lover at the same time it does not portray her fine before a man that is not social awareness. Before you class her to be money lover you need to use your initiative. First send her the credit and wait for her next action or you tell her you don’t have enough money for the credit and still watch her reaction over the statement. Through this you will be able to categorize her. Good luck!

Pressures are on me

Lovelines

I am a young lady. Already I have a child for a man, but all my people hate this man for no reason. They are pressurizing me to leave him but I can’t hence I love him beside I don’t want to raise my child as a single mother.

Ida

Ask those of them that are giving you pressure to give you a cogent reason that made them hate this man and what is his main offence that made them to hate him so much without thinking of feeling and happiness with your future. Should there be a true love exist between two of you tell your family that you can’t leave this man. At the same time it is your life let them leave you to marry someone you love. Tell the man everything and let him tell you his mind about you and your child. If he really wants to marry you. Tell those disturb you to leave you it is your life. Without time wasting let your man arrange for marriage if they refuse follow your heart (no what I mean). It is your life one child one father is not the best; wrong choice can sometime lead to difficulty in marriage and divorce. Good luck!

I am in love with two men

Lovelines

I am dating two men at the same time and both of them want to marry me .

Deraffet

You must be a super lady but without desire. Initially you suppose to know the type of relationship you want. If you are dating two men simultaneously you should be able to compare between the two and make your choice before it goes deep to extent of both registered their final intentions. What you need now is ability to choose between two of them in which no one can do for you except yourself. Choose one and tell the other that marriage between two of you is impossible because you have someone to marry. Good luck!

Method of approach

Lovelines

I want you to avail me method of approaching a woman.

Zubarou

There is no special method than confidence and self comportment. Be sure of yourself and ready to receive the answer from the opposite sex no matter what. And do not think that any lady you meet must give you positive answer. Positive answers are what normally create embarrassment and shyness. So be mindful it is not do or die affair. Approaching a lady you can start with admiration when you stop her or when you are together, give her good compliment and through her reply fire on with confidence. Good luck!

I love my cousin

Lovelines

I am a young girl and I have a cousin that is also a young boy. I love this cousin of mine to be my lover but I don’t know how to tell him because I am shy.

(Name withheld)

If I must say according to your text, you are still young to think of boyfriend at your age. There is nothing bad in having a cousin as a boyfriend or girlfriend so far the society we are in the Gambia permit such marriage, but if you surely have ambition 15/16 years of age as you said is still young. There is no one I can blame for this but parents who doesn’t know that early friendship or marriage is a phenomenon. For more explanation to your problem call Lovelines. Good luck!

Friendship nothing more

In my heart there is a love problem. For good 8-year I was dating a girl later I was told that her cousin is flirting after her. It is over one year now that she left me and she totally lost interest in me without trust me anymore. Each time I call or see her the only thing she tells me is for us to be a good friend and nothing more. Since then I can not love any one, what can I do?

K-K

There is nothing you can do than to put it behind you so that you will be able to move forward. Stop thinking about her and accept her friendship. You can not blame her, for the past 8-year have you ever make a move to marry her and her cousin might have promised her marriage in which you never think of. So be a man and take heart regard her as your friend not lover so that you will be able to love any girl that you come across. Good luck!

My father says no to my marriage

Lovelines

I am a regular reader of Lovelines. A man who love and care for me wanted to marry me, he sent kola nut to my parents last month to ask for my hands in marriage. My entire family member agreed but sadly, my father negates to the marriage and said he doesn’t want the marriage. My fiancé and I sent his close friend to him still he said no.

Farijah

What was the reason given by your father to turn down you and your fiancé intention? There must be a reason. So far the entire member support you and your fiancé talk to your mother, brothers and sisters to invite the Imam to intervene on this matter because who find a wife find good thing and who find a husband find happiness. I surely know the Imam and some elders from the mosque will surely be able to convince him. Good luck and remember to invite Lovelines to the wedding!

He wants me to inform my mother…I do, but still needs sex

Lovelines

I have a problem with my boyfriend he is 17 and I am sixteen. We have been dating for a long time now. He said I should let my mum know about our relationship because he has already told his mum about me. I told my mum she advises me but my boyfriend want to have sex with me. But I don’t want to do it with him now as I am still a student and wanted to pursue my education further after my grade 12. He always angry with me each time I let him know that I can’t have sex with him. I don’t want him to be angry same time I don’t want to have sex because I am just sixteen years. Please help me!

Sainabou

Have you ever heard the wise says that "one servant can not serve two masters?" And they also say "two masters cannot captain a boat." Like I do say, ‘love is the child of illusion, and parent of disillusion.’ You are still young to think of boyfriend. I can not ask you if truly you understand the meaning of love as the world is moving we have to move with it. Yet I will like you to know that so far you chose to have boyfriend despite your mother advises (which I do not know) but, you suppose to make your study your boyfriend but instead you have time for boy, you should know that you either accept to have sex or you forget about the relation. As a sister I will advise you to forget about intimacy (love) for now and face your study. Check your dictionary to know the meaning of these three words ILLUSION, DISILLUSION and FALLACY. Then listen to your heart because either a boy or man who is following a girl or a woman must surely ask for sex no matter how they pretend to be satisfy they still want to do it with their partner even the impotent man do wish to sleep with a woman whenever they are together. It is only the nature that prevents such man. A word is enough for the wise. Good luck!

I think he is having affairs with his neighbor

Lovelines

I am a girl of 18 while he is 19 but I suspect that he is having affairs with a girl next to his compound. But he told me that he was not having affairs with the suspected gal. I don’t know what to do because I love him so much and how can I prove that he love me and know if he was saying the truth?

Lisa

Suspicious is like a two edge dagger. You have to believe in yourself. Read Lovelines issue of May 30, which deal with "how to know if he/she loves you." Since your man has told you that nothing between him and his neighbor accept it but tell him that if it is true any day you find out it is going to be the end surely he will control himself. At the same time think of what the other girl can offer him that you are not giving him or which you can not do, make amendment where necessary you will see that he will love you than ever. Good luck!

He is funny and knows how to treat a woman

Lovelines

I have being in love with my boyfriend for 3 years until I met another guy we are both working together in the same establishment. We are attracted to each other even though I know he is married with a child. He is so funny and always make me laugh beside he know how to treat a lady. While my boyfriend doesn’t call, not romantic even interested and only visit I occasionally compare to my new man.

Khaddy

Well I do not know if you are a spinster or single mother. Anyhow, what make you boring of the whole affair according to your text, you didn’t say it. First and foremost since you know this man is married despite the fact that he measure up to your standard, think twice to know what you want because you said he is a married man with a child. Why are you boring about the whole affairs is it because of your boyfriend or the co-worker, do you think he want to marry you if it is part of what you feel for him, do you ever think you will become intruder into his marriage, so are you ready to be a good second wife and what do you think about the wife at home finally, would you like your husband to be hijacked by another lady working with him in his office in future when you get marry? Think about this before Lovelines can remove the boringness and give a call when you are ready. Good luck!

Lovelines

Is this not a big trouble? I have being with a guy for a long time. He loves and also trusts me so much but I am cheating on him. Notwithstanding my cheating on him, I love him so dearly. Right now I have made up my mind to remain faithful with him but I do not know what to tell the other guy I am presently dating.

Ndey-Amie

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This is a simple emotional separation. Tell your latter boyfriend that it is enough time to stop hiding the truth from him because you are still in love with your first boyfriend. Not only in love but still dates. Do not hesitate to tell him that his love cannot be compared with his and you cannot continue playing a double game because truth is the only safe ground to stand upon.

According to Arthur Schopenhauer, "Life is short, but truth works far and lives long; …speak the truth." So if he does not want to agree with you tell him that you do not love him and you have no feeling for him any more. But it is hard to say goodbye. Good luck!

I am having sex with my husband but no feeling

Lovelines

Ever since I got married to my husband we do have sex but I don’t have feeling. Moreover my husband is dating different girls outside.

Lala

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I am not an orthodox doctor but I think there are some symptoms that might be responsible for this if we are to look into it medically. If you can call me I will be able to ask you one, two or three questions in which if you are able to provide answer, I can say what could be the actual cause of your not have feeling. However, your not having feeling during sex with your husband might be part of what drives your husband to the arms of other girls outside.

Sexual activities require feelings from both partners. That is the only way you will both enjoy it and reach climax because it is a give and take action. But explain your experience to him and tell him to be careful STDs knows nobody. Call for more explanation. However, I will advice you to see a gynecologist or medical practitioner at the hospital. Good luck!

I sacrifice for him …he is not faithful to me

Lovelines

I have been dating a man for over one year, I actually love him with all my heart but he is not serious. He always lie to me any time I ask him if he is dating another gal. Each time, I always see love text on his phone which is sent by other gals. Just in the name of love, I sacrifice everything I have to make him happy, still he is not faithful to me. What can I do?

Bintou

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It is a matter of choice and love all you need to do is to decide if you want to remain in the relation or you want to quit for good if your guy refuse to limit the size of babes he is dating or concentrate on you.

At the same time, have you ever had a heart to heart discussion with him to know what those ladies outside offers him that you never give? Doing everything to make a relation work and strong without knowing the main solution is like pouring water into a basket. So there are two options for you, which is either to call and tell him your mind that you are not happy with the numerous girls he is dating- in order to avoid STDs. Second option is for you to kiss him goodbye and show him the door to get out of your life since he does not want to change - to avoid your daily stress and sadness.  Good luck!

I was forced to marry her

Lovelines

I was forced to marry a girl (my wife). I tried everything to love her but I could not because I am in love with another girl that I have promised three years ago. In spite of this forced marriage, still my mind is always with this cherish lovely but my unmarried girlfriend who still love me. I do not know what to do.

Ngange

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Hence you have accepted to the forced marriage, what you need to do is to build the love so that their will be peace and harmony between you and your wife. Since you still love your promised girlfriend the only alternative left for you is to marry her and become a husband to two wives. As a man you need to stand on your words no matter how they control you, remember they can only control you but not your mind. So beg your promised girlfriend to forgive and forget it is not by your doing but those that force you into it and tell her that you should remain as a good friend. Good luck!

His family does not like me

Lovelines

I am so deeply in love with a man who loves and cares for me more than words could define …He wishes so much that we spend the rest of our lives together but his family doesn’t like me.  He tries as much as possible to convince me that his family is happy about our relationship but I know they are not. I don’t want to betray his love for me because it can make both of us go mad. Still I am afraid his family might influence him against me in future. Lovelines, I am afraid to move into a family that doesn’t want to be my in-laws. I don’t know what to do because I don’t think either of us can live our lives without each other.   

Tonia

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How long this relationship is, I don’t know, but you have to belief in your sweet heart. Be patience, polite, kind, confidence and prayerful with a lot of tolerance and endurance if you want to have your way into their hearts. Try as much as possible to bring yourself down to their level; do not tell me that in a whole family of this man no one is in good time with you. And if there is none you should forget the relation for good but if there is, get closer to that person and through him/her you will be able to penetrate into their hearts. For guidelines make a call to Lovelines. Good luck!

I love her since I was 17-year-old

Lovelines

I am 23; I have been dating a girl since I was 17. We love each other and we engage in about 95% of love activities.  But what baffles me is that she never opens her gateway for me to pass through to her Jerusalem despite our sensuality. I want to share my affection with her. She knows this and she always feel angry about it. She does refuse because she is still at home and want me to wait till we get marry.  But I discussed marriage with her she accepted and said she is not ready as at now. She claimed to love me but I do not trust her.

Nasir

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Anyway love and sex her not separable in a good relation, but sometime we have to abstain from it for the time being and sake of understanding. If you are able to clock 95% of love activities with someone you love it is probably enough for you to be satisfied and also enough for your girlfriend to consider you as a good lover that respect love and open. So if you have been able to stay with her for good six years without sexual intercourse, it is enough for you to endure more till she is ready since you love her. If you coax her well she might probably give you a chance but if she does not and you feel not able to condole it any more tell her your mind because your body is full. So if she accepted for you to have another girlfriend whom you will use to cool your temper, good, and if she say no follow your heart because you can not force her against her will. Good luck!  

He keeps telling me to concentrate on my studies!

Lovelines

I am in love with a man. Initially I have told him what I have in my mind. But he keeps on telling me to concentrate on my studies. Already I am a graduate. I am tired and confused because I don’t know what to do. I love him.

Maimuna

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Since you are a graduate find yourself a job and if you have one make him understand that you are a degree holder and you can go for your post graduate course after marriage. That is if both of you have discussed up to marriage level. But one thing you have to know is that he might not ready for marriage now at the same time you might have been living in world of illusion with him since, I will not digress on this here. So take it cool and explain to him in such a way both of you will understand each other. If he still adamant to your explanation ready for marriage, then think of either to wait for him till he will say yes or get down with someone that is ready. Good luck!

His neighbor hijacks him from me

Lovelines

I am a young gal of 27 dating a guy for 2 years now. We were overly in love until the affection dice rolled away from my side to a lady staying in my lover’s compound.  He told me to stay away from his house because he was in love with this lady in his compound. Now I do not know what went wrong between them he want us to continue the relationship again. Can I continue with him?

Haja

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Love is something that you can not manufacture but you can develop and nurture it. Since you love him and you are ready to swallow the humiliation you receive from him when he told you to stay away at the same time the embarrassment that you might probably encounter with the lady in his compound later on, then continue. But if you are not ready for any of the two (humiliation and embarrassment) kiss him goodbye he is not a responsible guy. In future if you both marry you should know better that he can still do same thing. Remember leopard can’t change its spot. Okay, if you still not understand this make a call to Lovelines. Good luck!

Have you any love issue bothering your mind that you will like to share? Call/text 7790689, 6560592 or email: yunus2kay@yahoo.com. A problem shared, is a problem solved.

I am dating a guy but I really want to tell him that it is over. I want this because we are not sharing the same religion. Definitely his family deeply likes me. At the same time I am dating a man that I really love. He care for me, I always lie to him that he is the only one I am dating yet he  shows love and care but I don’t know how to tell  him to forget about me

Loumbeh

No matter how heavy a word is it cannot be cut with a knife but with teeth. Tell your lover boy that it is not easy for you to say but you can not continue hiding from him that everything is okay while it is not.

Let him no about your incompatibility mostly when it come to religion and let him know that it will not work because of that you have to put an end to it. He will surely protest with you since he love you but let him know the truth that you always pretend to love him while you are not but your mind is in somewhere else, with time he will understand so far you are able to tell him. Good luck!

Her friend gave me her number

Lovelines

There is a girl that I collected her number from her friend when they visited my compound. I expressed my feeling for her, after 3 months she accepted to go out with me. Since then I always calls and send series of SMS text to her but she never turn up and visit me for a day. What is this girl up to?

Rolland

I think it is high time for you to forget her and move on. If it takes a man three months to prepare for madness, how many months will it take him to enter a market to an extent of his recognition as a mad man? So grow up my guy, the lady doesn’t have your time but you can continue chatting if you have no other better lady in your surrounding maybe one day she will turn up. But I don’t assure you. Good luck!

I don’t know if he will marry me

Lovelines

I am a young lady of 27 been going out with a guy for the past 8 years. We stay together and have a 5-year-old daughter. I don’t really know if he want to marry me or not but any time I talk to him about marriage he will respond negatively. Now I am in love with an old schoolmate we are dating secretly. I love him so much that I am thinking of leaving my child’s father.

Lucy

Really a long relation without assurance and a genuine agreement is nothing better than fun and humiliation. If you have a child with someone still the person is not ready to marry you. If you continue to remain in such relationship it is a time wasting. Instead of you to involve in a secret dating it is better to quit your relation with the father of your child who is not ready to marry you but using you as a bedmate to avoid accusation. But if he is ready to marry you quit the latter relation. At your age he should not expect you not to have bearing and ready to settle down with a man you can introduce and call your husband. Good luck!

I am between the devil and deep blue sea

Lovelines

I am a girl of 18 dating a guy for the past 3 years. He chased me for a whole year before I answered him yes. Another guy is flirting after me, I love him too but I don’t want to hurt my boyfriend feelings. My consideration for this other guy is based on the allegation that friends to my   boyfriend told him that I am not serious and he agreed with them. I am really serious with him but I have made up my mind to answer this other guy. I don’t know what to do I am between the devil and the deep blue sea.

Sharma

You already made up your mind you are only left with execution of your plan. If a woman has not taste one or two men she will find it difficult to judge who is the best. It is your world, if he can believe what his friends had told him about you then tell him the truth that you are ready to get out of the relation since you have no feeling for him any more but for another man. Life is good enjoy it but with care. Good luck!

He wants me to visit him

Lovelines

There is a man I once love dearly and admire but he never mind or care about me. I am now happily married to another man. He (my admirer) now always invites and wants me to come and visit him at home.

Jannah

Visit him for what? Tell this man to go to hell with his love since you are married and still want to date you. He has nothing to offer than having you to fill the hole on his bed. This man wants you to be a temporary succor to his emotional feeling. Think very well and stay away from him if you don’t want to rock your marriage because of unserious man. Good luck!

I don’t know if I love him

Lovelines

I am 19. I have not dated any one for 2 years due to disappointments. Many guys approached me but I normally rejected them but there’s this particular guy who strongly expressed his love for me. Should I accept him? Yet I don’t know if I love him. I am confused tell me what to do.

Haja

Since you do not love this guy why don’t you wait study him and see if you can build love for him. If you still find it difficult to have feeling for him in your heart simply be on your own and let him go. The guy you will love will surely come your way. However you can not love by rejecting everyone that come your way but you can love when you are able to relate with others from there you will have feeling for the one you are attracted to. If you don’t understand this give me call. Good luck!

I am afraid to touch a woman

Lovelines

Any time I want to touch my girlfriend, I am always afraid of her I don’t know the reason? I don’t understand myself I wasn’t like this before with my ex girl but since I found that I love this girl it another story.

Mohammed

Your problem is a simple one. Look for another baby that we not frighten you. But if you want me to answer this to your satisfaction, try to call. Good luck!

He wants to impregnate me before traveling

Lovelines

I love my boyfriend and he loves me too but I never meet his parents except his married elder sister. I ask him to introduce me to his other family member but he keep on saying ‘baby the time is yet to come.’ But now he wants me to conceive for him just because he wanted to travel to oversea since he would not like me to forget him in a hurry and marry someone else while he is away.

Semirah

You haven’t got a person that is ready to marry you without condition. A man of such that thinks of himself alone is a selfish person. He is trying to let you know that he’s not ready to have you as a wife but want you to manufacture a child for him. Many have done it that way and they are regretting it till date. In brief, if he needs a child or children let him marry you unconditionally not because he is traveling and want to have a wife and child behind. Look your surrounding, think deeply, open your eyes and wake up. Good luck!

I don’t want to hurt my friend

Lovelines

There is a man I met with my friend. But this girl (my friend) said they are in love with each other whereas it is a lie. This particular man approached me and said that he loves me. I don’t want to hurt my friend by accepting him to my life what can I do?

Jaka

It is just a matter of confirmation from the man if you have any feeling for him. Ask him what is between him and your friend, tell him what your friend has told you about him and if he denies it bring two of them together to know the truth. Or better still since your friend is interested in him and you do not want to hurt her tell him the truth and encourage him to go for your friend in order to keep the string of the friendship. Good luck!

I still love the boy

Lovelines

Am a gal in my 20s I have being in love with a guy for 3 years. We have a misunderstanding that lasted for one month. One day he called me to come and greet his new girl friend, and I still love the boy! What is your advice on this?

‘Muna

I will advise you to forget him as your lover instead you can remain as a friend. You term with him is over. If you continue following him you will downgrade yourself and lower your esteem before him and the girl. There are lot of men outside who will love, respect and care for you because this guy have no respect for you than embarrassment. Good luck!

She is not faithful to me

Lovelines

I have a girl who has never been faithful to me still I don’t know how I can abandon her because I feel pity for her. She always visits me at home and when she comes she must leave before midnight. Surprise, each time I call her when she leaves my house a man always picks the phone and if she knows that I am the one who is calling she will not pick it.

Charles

If this action is a continuous process, you have to follow her to where she stays to know who and who she stays with. Inquire from her who always picks her call when you call her. Listen to the response of the man that normally pick the call and notice her reaction when you challenge her. With open mind summon courage and tell her that you want the relationship to come to an end while you both remain as a good friend because there is no faithfulness between two of you. Good luck!

16-year, is she still young?

Lovelines

There is a girl in my area I love her with all my heart. She is 16 and I am 21. Recently I sent her a letter to express my feeling for her. It seems she loves me because she always asks for me. Last week she washed my clothes. I want to tell her verbally that I love her but I don’t want to disturb her with love affairs because she is young and as well a student but I am afraid to loose her to another man in future. Can I express my love for her?

Barry

Think very well the girl you are talking about is underage. What a life? Oh, albeit there are some teenagers that however look 23, 24 years old but not a 16-year old. What does such girl know about relationship apart from sex? Take your time browse elsewhere and see girls that are not underage. Forget about loosing her or not, she is young and a student. Remember you will not like your own sister of that age been chasing around by a man in the name of dating, wait till she has pass her adolescent age. Good luck!

Can I stop the relation to save her marriage?

Lovelines

I recently met a caring, loving married girl. I love her but she is married with a daughter but her husband is out of the country for further studies. She loves her husband and talks more about him. Her husband absent caused her to fall in love with me to an extent that my love for her is a threat to her marriage because of the deep love. The husband will return soon. Can I call off this relation now to save her marriage or continue till the husband come because I do not want to break her heart because she deeply loves me.

Walex

Before you set fire to burn anything first text it on your body. If it is you that is not around will you be happy that your wife is dating another man? If this lady knows that she loves you why can’t she divorce and marry you? She praise sings for her husband because you are just a server to her. Quit this relation with immediate effect because it is a threat to her marriage if the husband aware and divorce her, I surely know that you will not marry her. So why engage yourself in what Almighty Allah against, adultery? Once again, quit this ungodly act and seek for forgiveness but remain as a mere friend that can advice and help each other. Good luck!