Lovelines,

I am going out with a gal of almost the same age. I later told her that we should break up because somebody heard about our dating. She refused instead she keeps on calling me and crying that we should continue. I love her too but the message has gone far to my parents and they told me to break up with her. She insists that I should not worry that my parents will not find out.

Sam,

I think you need to call me before I can say exact thing I feel about this your text message. Who is ‘somebody’ that heard about the relation, your exact ages and why your parent wants you to break or step down from the relation? But if you can’t call just read your mind and follow it. Good luck!

An old man lies against me before her

Lovelines,

There is a girl I met. I expressed my feeling for her but she does not give me a good response. I looked into her eyes and discovered that she love me. But there is an old man who loves her too; although she did not accept to date him. This old man knows me, he told me that the girl is married still he is running after her, while he equally told her that I am a married man too. This made the girl to refuse to my love canvass.

Adama,

Let this girl know that you are not married and what the old man was telling her is nothing but a basket of lie. Stop the old man from lying about you because this can cause you a lot of damage before anyone. So if the girl still doesn’t want to date you, look elsewhere for girl that will love you without hiding her feeling for you. Good luck!

If she can’t cook for the family, divorce

Lovelines,

I am a married man working full time as well as my wife does.  My mother always complains about my wife. She want her to stop working so that she will have time to cook for the family or she should always cook each time she come back from work, this,  my wife totally disagree to do if at all I can divorce her because she can not leave her job for cooking.

‘Fana,

Family interfering is one of the things that quickly lead to marriage break up in our society. To avoid this most time, when you get married you are suppose to live with your wife or husband under a separate roof different from your family or parents house. This will allow you to build your own family and carry your crosses as both of you wishes.

This issue requires a total understanding, cooperation and consideration between you, your wife and your mother. You have to reach an agreement so far you are still staying with your parents with your wife. Your wife cannot stay without cooking neither can she stop working because of cooking. So if truly you and your wife understand respect and love each other dearly both of you will be able to come up with a tangible solution that will arrest the action of your mother. I could have answer this better but you did not reply to my questions or call me. Good luck!

I stop giving her money

Lovelines,

This is my dilemma, I am in love with a girl each time I call her to come over to my place she will not come. Anytime she needs money I used to give her but now I stop giving her money. Since this decision no more love text or call. I don know what to do.

Snick,

There is nothing special about this. You have to know that she got know feeling or time for you. She is interested only in what you are giving her. So far you stop the monetary part of the love you can see the result. What else? Put her behind and move forward because you can only force a horse to the river but will not be able to force it to drink. Good luck!

I am married without kids

Lovelines,

I am married for eight years now without kids but my husband is not helping the situation although he has a son with another woman in the past. Moreover, he is not serious he plays around with different gals.

Matta,

Children are gift from Almighty Allah. Try as much as possible to talk to your husband any day he is at home with you in a good mood. Explain the importance of kids in marriage to him. Let him know that you are not happy with the situation of things between you and him. Talk to him in a sober and respectful manner he will change. If he refuse to heed to your talk tell elders that are very closer to him they will help you out. Do not be tired. Good luck!

Boy: she can’t wait for you

Lovelines,

I am in love with a girl that we intended to marry. The problem is that I am not ready to get married now and her parents said that there daughter is not going to wait for me. So what should I do?

Mohammed,

What you are to do is very obvious and simple, it is either you take kola nut to her parents and be recognize and pronounce you husband and wife or you loose the battle in the name of “not ready to get marry now.” So if it is because you are not ready now there is nothing you can do than to let her go so far she is ready and want to get marry unless she tells you that she can wait for you and for how long? That is a question that needs short answer. I can choose for you because you know your reason for not ready now. So think of what to do. Good luck!

I stay in a love prohibited area

Lovelines,

I do not know how I can solve this problem because I am dating a girl that we are of different religion and tribe. We surely love each other. I am 23. Another problem is that where I am staying is a missionary compound it is against the rules that a girl should visit and I don’t want to break the rules. I always say no whenever she want to visit me over the weekend if she is around. Because of this she always asks if I lover her. I explain to her the reason for my decision and inability to go out with her regularly hence I could not be taken permission always to avoid suspicion.

Lewis,

Tow things you should ask yourself in which I know the answers is that are you going to marry this girl or you just want to play with her? Question two, will you or two of you be able to solve the tribe and religion difference that might be a barrier between two of you if at all you decide to get marry? Do not give false answer. The next which is about where you stay, you can visit her at home this will make her sure of your love for him. Since you love her you will know how to take permission if not everyday but when you both miss each other because ‘the intellect is always fooled by the heart.’ Good luck!

She promise to find me a girl

Lovelines,

I am in love with a girl unfortunately I have problem with her. Each time I visit her she use to tell me that “I want to find another girl for you.”

Lamin,

Buddy, it is left to you to accept or not. But it is better for you to tell her that she is the one you love not the person she want for you. So if she knows that she love you know more, it is not a problem. Become a good friend, you might be able to have her back if you truly love each other in the beginning. Good luck!

There was an old man who married three wives.  His name was Ebou, he was a farmer and went to work on the farm on daily basis except on wednesdays.  As it is a tradition to rest the day.  His eldest wife Kumba, the middle Fanta and the third wife Kodou all lived in the same household.

The old man had eight children with the eldest wife, five girls and three boys..The first three of the off springs were girls and the rest were much younger.  Both Fanta and Kodou had three off springs who were girls too. Kumba the first wife was very active and hardworking.  She did her domestic duty and set for the rice field and would not returned until late evening.

The other wives were reluctant and lazy to work in order to support the family.  The old man had less time to enjoy life, despite being old he continued to struggle for his family’s survival with the help of his eldest wife Kumba.  As time passed the old man became weak and weaker and could no longer be able to go to the farm.  Unfortunately, for him his children have never been to school.

Now a days farming is no longer profitable due to lack of enough rain.  The traditional farmig practices cannot sustain a large family.  His home condistion is shaped by poverty and life became unbearable forcing her three daughters to migrate to the city in search of work. Ultimately fending for themselves led them into prostitution, urban life is not easy for the girls were unable to find work in the job market.

They resorted to the rigorous life of earning income through prostitution, Not knowing the danger of HIV/Aids affectiing people all over.

Survival takes precedence as they also proposed to work and earn some money which they hope to send home to support their poor old father to care for the family.  They had become a prey to HIV/Aids due to lack of knowledge and ability to protect themselves against the scourge of the pandemic. The risk of infection was eminent because of the way they value life, love and sex.

As time ensued the news of their illness reached theri village.  The father delegated one of the uncles to come to the city.  Momodou was very disturbed when he reached the city where the girls stayed.  He could not spend much time there.  He cautioned them to come with him back to the village.

When they reached home the entire family was sad and though that the illness was perhaps been caused by witch craft.  They were taken to the marabouts for treatment.  Their conditions worsened each day and the villagers talked about the plight of the three girls. 

This is another burden to the poor family who struggled for their daily mails to take charge of their care and treatment.

There was to much gossips in the village as people predicted one form of symptom to another.  Finally, the girls all died of Aids within a short period of time.  Despite poverty in the developing countires some people in the rural community contend that life in the city is easier and they only realize the truth as they live in strange living condition.  The victims end up living in ghettos and slums only to become fugitives and convicts.  Their lives end up miserably and they resort to blame people who are not responsible for their pitfalls.