Senior Magistrate Abdoulie Mbacke of the Kanifing Magistrates Court recently remanded one Muhammed Bah, who is charged with defiling an underaged girl (name withheld).

Narrating the facts before the court yesterday, Police Prosecutor 870 Touray told the court that on August 13, 2008, the parents of the young girl told the police at Talinding Police Station that one Muhammed Bah had defiled their daughter.

According to the prosecutor, the teenage girl frequently visited the accused at his  house at the request of the accused.

Prosecutor Touray further told the court that the accused had carnal knowledge of the young girl on three occasions, adding that on each occasion (after having carnal knowledge of the young girl), he gave her  money.

“Subsequently, the girl missed her period.  When the girl informed the accused about the new development, he told her to abort the pregnancy. When the girl fell sick, her parents took her to the Serrekunda Health Centre for a medical check-up. The medical examination revealed that the young girl was pregnant,” Prosecutor Touray told the court.

The accused, according to the police prosecutor, was arrested and during his interrogation admitted having had carnal knowledge of the girl.

Prosecutor 870 Touray further tendered the birth certificate of the girl with the medical prescription. The documents were admitted as exhibits.

The case was then adjourned to October 13 for judgement.

Dr Tamsir Mbowe, the director general of the Presidential Medical Programme and director of Health and Medical Services, has described the efficacy of President Alhaji Dr Yahya Jammeh’s infertility treatment as “unsurpassed”.

Dr Mbowe, a renowned gyneacologist, said this has been evidently manifested by the results of patients who have undergone the treatment.

“So far, based on HCG and Abdominal Ultra Sound reports, 96 patients have been confirmed pregnant. Seven out of the 96 patients are from Europe and other African countries,” said Dr Mbowe.

DG Dr Mbowe observed that many more patients who conceived as a result of President Jammeh’s infertility treatment might not want to come out and announce their status, due to traditional and cultural beliefs associated with pregnancy.

According to Dr Mbowe, those who have not yet conceived might either have reached menopause, developed gyneacological problems or have partners with medical complications.  

He then used the opportunity to announce the registration date for men with impotency or sexual complications. According to him, the registration process will take place at the new Serrekunda Hospital on Monday, from 9:00 am to 2:00 pm.

He also expressed gratitude to President for restoring the health of the sick, noting that his contribution goes a long in improving the health indicators of the country.

Lovelines

We have been dating for six years without hassle, until recently when a guy, who had been chasing her for seven months, secured a job for her. Before getting her the job, my fiancÈe did not agree to date him, according to what she tells me. But now that he has succeeded in getting her a job, he is frequently at my fiancÈe’s place which has never been the case, while she too is visiting him whenever she wish. This baffles me!

Sol

Well you have to take this maturely. Since she said there is nothing intimate between them, tell her what you want and what you don’t about her and the man in question. Since she is your fiancÈe   you have the right to demand explanation for whatever you may not be satisfied with. To avoid trouble, she should stop the guy, because he has played his part by getting her a job. She has to stop the visits and tell the guy that she has a fiancÈ. But if she can do so, I think both of you need to re-plan your love world. Good luck!

I don’t have feelings for her

Lovelines

I just discovered that my girlfriend is five months pregnant. We have been dating for four years. She wants me to marry her but I have no feeling for her since we started going out to date. More so, I am attached to another lady that I really love. I am confused, because I have gone deep with this new lady.

Sering

It is better that you stop joking and playing around with your life. As a man, you must have bearing and know what you want from what you don’t. You are not wood nor a stone, but a man, so you have to remember that "white lies always introduce others of a darker complexion," as said by William Parley. What I mean is that since you did not quit because of your lack of feeling for her in the past years, why is it now that she is pregnant you remember your lack of feeling for her? So you have no genuine excuse. Do not be confused. Tell your parents and arrange for the marriage. Good luck!  

He has another girlfriend

Lovelines

I learnt that my boyfriend is having another girlfriend near his house despite our being together for the past 2 years and 7 months.

Naffie

It is not a new thing! It is left for you to make your relation a romantic one, so that you will be able to get back what belongs to you. If you still love him take it cool. But if you can’t accept that tell him to choose between the two of you or else you will quit. If he still loves you he will choose to remain with you. Good luck!  

We always quarrel

Lovelines

I have deep love for my girlfriend but we can’t do without quarrelling every one or two weeks. I left her on two occasions but she will always tell my friends that she loves me. Right now we have a problem. Again, she is asking my friends to talk to me. I am confused.

Bogy-boy

It is not my right to tell you to walk away from her, even if she is not giving you peace of mind. A relationship in which you quarrel every two weeks and  on two occasions left each other and reconciled, means you are not compatible. So, nothing better will come out of it unless you want to continue on and off. However, it is better you let her know that you are not made for each other. Good luck!

How can she please my mum?

Lovelines

We are young lovers. In a 3-year relationship, we’ve never had any misunderstanding. My entire family wants her including my dad, who is very fond of her. But my mum does not want to set eyes on her, in spite of all her efforts to please her.

Jerry

If you really love her and want her for marriage, try as much as possible to ask your mum the reason behind the distaste for her. Also try to talk to your father to plead to your mother on your behalf together with your brothers and sisters. When she realises that everyone likes your friend, she may change her mind. Good luck!

He says we should break-up

Lovelines

We have being in love for 3-years before he travelled abroad last year. He one day called me and said "I want us to break-up our relationship." I went to his brother to complain but he told me the same thing. In fact he called out a lady that the brother (my boyfriend) wanted to marry, so that I could see her with my eyes. But my problem is I just can’t stop thinking about him although his mum once told me after he had just travelled, that I should leave her son alone because we are not  meant for each other despite the fact that he has introduced me to the family when we earlier started dating.
Lolly

Meditation is not a means to an end.  So try as much as possible to stop thinking about him because you can have him back. He has already made up his mind and the mother, with his siblings, have agreed with him. Put that behind you and the right guy will surely come to your life. Good luck!

I have a question

Lovelines

Do you think I can get a good caring lover that is ready to marry me? Because men outside nowadays want to remain single forever.

Santa

Lovelines

I am a single young man and a good Christian still unmarried

Richard

Santa and Richard, keep on reading Lovelines, your partners are on the way. Are you a serious Muslim man or Christian lady? You might be the right person for Santa and Richard. Interested? Ok, make the call. Good luck!

Mother chose the right wife for me

Lovelines

My mum has chosen a good wife for me. She is morally okay and perfect. She is the type of woman I want, yet I am not comfortable. What is the problem?  

Waggeh

Really I cannot say why in particular you are not comfortable, because you did not say exactly what you are not comfortable with. Is it with the woman (your wife), your mother, the relationship, your standard of living, or with everything else? Try to expand on this for Lovelines to answer. Anyhow try to be happy, think positively and feel satisfied with yourself. Good luck!

He tells me about his ex

Lovelines

I am in a two-month-old relationship. But my boyfriend was in a 5-year relationship with a lady who is presently out of the country. He told me one day that he started dating me because he had a problem with the girl. But I really love him, I don’t want us to seperate.

Bridget

If you want to keep him for yourself, you stir and stump the relationship, and blow your own trumpet before him. Meaning that you should try as much as possible to do what he likes most. Do them with little romance, he will not turn away from you. Read more about Loveline’s past edition "How to make your relationship romantic." So develop relationship skills, this will make you champion over the ex. Good luck!


I don’t trust my wife

Lovelines

I have a wife whom I love so much but I do not trust her.

Jatta

If you love your wife you must trust her but if you don’t then something is going on. You might not be able to trust her 100% but 99.8% if you truly love her and know that she loves you too. A relationship without trust is nothing but  mere eye service love. So try to trust her because trust is like a soul, it never returns once it is gone. Good luck!

I am dating two guys at a go

Lovelines

I am 18, dating two guys at the same time. One of them is very caring, lovely and calls me always. While the other guy’s behaviour is opposite to the first one, he does not call, neither cares about me. However, I love both of them, yet I do not know what to do or whom to stay with amongst the two.

Jennifer
 
Anyhow I will not say that you are young because you are an adult, but it is not good at your age to keep two guys at a time. So choose one amongst the two. To answer your question, it is a pity that we know who we love but we don’t know who loves us when it comes to dating. To know what you should do, try as much as possible to study the two prudently and know whom you really love because you can’t love the duo in everything equally. At the same time you should find out the reason behind the one that doesn’t care much about you. Probably he has no phone or he lacks some love attributes. Whichever way, learn more about their characters, occupations and families, this will enable you to make a choice. Good luck!

I have feeling for different girls

Lovelines

I always have a feeling for every girl, but now I met a girl that I am interested in. I talked to her about my feelings towards her. She told me that she has a boyfriend. I tried her for a second time but she answered angrily and said "this is my boyfriend I  told you before, still you keep following me."  

Derby

Well, this is a girl that already has a boyfriend that she would not like to betray. So leave her and look for another cool, disciplined and beautiful girl, that will love you and be honest with you, as she is to her boyfriend. If you continue following her, one day she might embarrass you or say ‘yes’ just to stop you. And if she does that, at the end you might regret it, because love is a feeling from the heart, we develop it for someone we are interested in gradually till we get attracted to the person.  When this happened, it started growing in your mind. That’s why some people will say to their love ones that ‘my love for you is eternal that will never be thirsty…’ So browse somewhere else for a better lover that will love you with her heart and soul. Good luck! ,

Lovelines

I am a young girll in a 6-month-old relation. I just discovered recently that I am pregnant. My boyfriend is extremely happy about this when I told him. Should I tell my mum that I am pregnant because I really want to keep the baby as this is the only way they will allow us to get marry to each other.

Babung

It is compulsory you tell your mother about your pregnancy. But remember it is not a pride of any parent to see their daughter getting pregnant out of wedlock. So far this has happened, you have to tell your mum who will accept the fate and talk to your father about it if alive. Besides, having pregnancy out of wedlock is not a measure or a genuine reason that will make a marriage come true. It is not the best, as it is sometime results into ‘had I know.’ Once again inform your mother about this. Good luck!

Is there no partner for the poor?

Lovelines

I have a friend from the same village. He is a businessman I live  and work with  him, and  he is my boss. He often help me to solve my problems financially, while he always take any of my girlfriends that I bring home or introduce to him because he has money. He is fond of telling me that "girls are for money."  Does this  act and statement means that there is no love for the poor?

Sutu

Not that there is no partner or sincere love for the poor, it is just a coincidence that  the people you loved always end up with your friend because you are staying with him and financially stronger . But looking at things carefully, I think you are always having wrong girlfriends that are in love for money. meaning ‘money for hand,  In brief your friend is not trustworthy. He should not use his position as an advantage over you. As a good friend tell him that you are not happy with  his style. Better still to avoid problems with him, if you know that you can stand on your own, rent an apartment for yourself. But if you cannot, then  stop takning your girlfriend home or introducing them to him. I assure you that  if you get a lady that really love you, she will not consider your friend as human but a traitor and betrayal. Good luck!


She wants me to be serious

Loveline

I am 24 dating a girll of 23.  My girll friend wants me to get serious about her while she is not serious with  me. She often complains about girls visiting and calling me, whilst men do visit and call her anytime. Please tell me if she loves me because I give her my heart 100%.  What can I do?

Lamou

The two of you need  time to sit down and talk to each other about what you like and dislike. Doing that , you will be able to understand and respect each other. There is nothing both of you can do to avoid friends’ calls or visits but it all  depends on the level of maturity between the  two of you. Good luck!

We have sworn to an oath

Lovelines

I am in love with a lady who equally  loved me. We are now confronted by a problem from the girl’s mother because she want her to get marry to a guy she was engaged with  before we met. However both of them do not love each  where as the girl and I have both sworn to an oath to marry each other and I am ready to marry her.

Jumbulu

Although they always say love is blind. Both of you should have thought of what you might encounter in future before you swore to an oath. I will encourage you for the betterment of the two of you that you should revoke this oath before it is too late. If Allah ordained it that you will become husband and wife in future no one can change it but if he said no your oath couldn’t say yes. So think, and think do not let emotion over ride your feelings. Good luck!


Relationship with a lot of quarrels

Lovelines

Our relationship is two years old with a lot of quarrels. I am no longer having any feeling for him. I want us to be ordinary friends but he wont let me be. He said he still loves me when he did not. For the past two years I was trying to make the relation work.

Majula

Such is life, if you know that you really have nothing to do with him because of the frequent quarrels in the relation, then stop going to his house and never  call or text him. At the same time stop receiving his call and don’t reply to his text any more. More so, it is you that will control yourself before him, no one will do it for you. So you are entitle to your personal decision on this matter. Good luck!

He always evade marriage discussion

Lovelines

I have been dating a guy for over four years but he never discussed marriage with me. I am the one that always ask or bring up marriage issue between us and each time I brought up the topic, he will surely evade the discussion. Now I am confused, I do not know if I should leave him or not. I am 25 and he is 27.

Nyama

Obviously he is not ready to marry as at now. There might be a lot of things going on in his mind that is keeping him away from marriage that you do not know. It is not only for you to bring up the issue but ask him the reason why he does not want to marry, probably you might find his reason genuine. So if you know that your utmost now is wedding or marriage, you have your life to live. So make a choice. By the way I also think that it is better that two of you plan strongly before marriage for  a better tomorrow. So try not to be confused. Good luck!

Her husband read my text message

Lovelines

There is a girl that loves me since we were in primary school up to secondary school level. She got pregnant after our WAEC examination and later married. To my amazement this girl still love me. She sometimes call and text me, but I never reply. After series of complaints from her I started to reply to her text messages and calls. Unfortunately her husband read my last text to her and he called me for a discussion, which was centered on my past and present relations with the lady. I don’t know what to do before her husband will take next action since the girl will not stop calling or texting me despitethe fact that iam not calling her.

Alieu

I will encourage you to stop endangering your life. Take it or you leave it, this girl is married no matter how strong love she has for you try as much as possible to keep away unless you do not value your life. Since her husband has played maturity by inviting you for a dialogue it is better you keep a distance. Tell the girl that it is not your intention to be an intruder or bring sorrow to a steady and peaceful family. It is your right, if you want to have your dignity, to tell her husband that you have nothing to do with his wife and he should let bygone be a bygone. So from this moment stop calling her or text her. Look elsewhere if you need a wife or someone to date. Someone with husband will put you in a problem. A word is enough for a wise man. Good luck!

I don’t understand my brother’s babe

Lovelines

I have a brother that love and care for me so much. He always send me credits in order to remain in touch with him. But his girlfriend thinks am dating her boy, she texts me all the time asking the same question despite telling her that he is just a brother. The sad story is that they now have a problem after our last text.

Nyara

The problem is that the lady might not know the extent of relationship between you too. But since you have explained to her on different occasions she supposed to have listened to you and at least believe you for once. But if it is true that there is nothing between two of you try and invite the two together and settle the matter between them. Doing this her mind will be at rest and believe you. Good luck!

I can’t grant his request

Lovelines

I love my boyfriend and I always do everything he request for him. But one thing I do not  accept having affair with him.

What should I do?

Ruth

You have the right to stick to your word. If he loves you as you do love him, he will wait for you till the time you are ready but if he can’t, tell him to look elsewhere if your life and pride is precious to you. Good luck!


How can I quit?

Lovelines

I am 25 and she is 20. Our relationship is almost 3-year. She always sends text to me to express her concern and love for me. Surprisingly I discovered that she is dating another guy that I know. I love her too but now I don’t know how to quit the relation.

Badara

You will be able to quit the relation if you have choice. At the same time determination matters most, because you know what is good for you and what you want from your girlfriend. So decide if really you want to say goodbye to her or you just want to stress her. If really to quit, tell her it is over and stop visiting, calling or texting her and if she  call do not answer her. Good luck!

She tunes him like a radio

Lovelines

My boyfriend is dating another girl, this girl always tune him like a radio. She can call it quit today and tomorrow they will start again. As at now they have broken up but I know sooner or later she will come back again.

Fatou

This is not your  problem since you are ready to continue sharing him with her. If you want him to forget this girl try as much as possible to be more romantic make sure that what the other girl is doing for him you are able to do more than that. Before you know it he will forget her finally. Good luck!

I am pregnant for a respectable boy

Lovelines

I am in love with a respectable gentle boy since the past three years. This boy loves me too much; I am very welcome in his family. His mum can’t do without calling me. But sooner than I thought early this year I discovered that I am pregnant for him. Now I keep my examination free, nobody in the family knows that I am 7-month pregnant except my friends and boyfriend. I have decided to run away to go and stay with a friend till I deliver the baby when I will come back home. The reason for this decision is that if my dad knows about it he will send me away from the house forever.

Nyantcho

I am very surprised with  your foolish decision. If you think  running to your friend will solve the  problem because your father will send you away from his house when he discover that you are pregnant, then, what about when you deliver the child and come back home do you think he will be happy with you and welcome you with open hands to the house? I hope you are not thinking of committing infanticide or baby dumping. If it is true that your so called ‘respectable gentle boy’ love you, why can’t he talk to her mother who can’t do without calling you about what has happened between you ? I want you to discuss it with your boyfriend so that he will talk to his mother who will go and meet your parents about the issue. If you are a good child. It can happen to anyone who is playing the game. This is  why  anybody who  is not ready should not involve. However, if I know your parents I would blame them for not being able to know that a child staying under their roof is 7-month pregnant without their knowledge up t
o date. So do not run a way from home, but try as much as possible to discuss this  predicament with your boyfriend’s mother or your parents, mostly your mother with immediate effect. Good luck!

My cousin raped me I am dying in silence!

Lovelines

Just a month back, my cousin raped me before he travelled to Europe. Since he came back from Europe ,I do not have rest of mind and peace. I do not know what to do anymore because he is telling me that he loves me. With all he that he   put me through the embarrassment and the indelible scar he left on my heart, I don’t love him and I will never love him for anything. He went to my boyfriend and told him to back off from me. I am confused because I told my mum about this unexpected incidence but she thought i am lying without her doing anything to find out the truth. This is because the guy is my maternal cousin. I am dying in silence!

(Name withheld)

This is a serious matter that you really have to  explain how it happened, to your parents not only your mother. If you are really sure of this, tell your parents to call the two of you to  sit together and repeat all what you might have told your mother and how everything happened. It is then you will be able to prove your case. I know that the elders will apply equity and justice on the matter when they find out the truth unless they want to be injustice. However, there are a lot of questions for you to answer on this issue. But to solve this problem you still need to talk to your parents. Anyhow if your mother who supposed to be your confidant cannot believe you, then I must say that there is something fishy going on.  For the time being try to take record of everything going on between you, your cousin, boyfriend and your mother.  But I do not want to go deep because when it happened there must be someone who  knows about it apart from telling your mother. Good luck!

As the rainy season has dawned so have the worries of all the people regarding the contraction of the killer disease, malaria.

The best way to combat malaria has eluded scientists for many decades. In the light of this, it is a relief to learn that there is a breakthrough by scientists in Australia. For the world to benefit from such adiscovery may take a while, thus I applaud Congo for the move they have taken to assist their population especialy children and pregnant women by providing free malarial medical assistance to such a vulnerable group.

I would urge The Gambia to emulate such a gesture and make free malaria medical provisions for such groups. This will go a long way towards helping the ongoing war against malaria.

Gawlo Jalow

He calls me name instead of pet names

Lovelines

I can’t say definitely if my guy love me or not because he never call me baby or love instead he calls me my name.

Though he has tried several times to have sex with me but I did not give him a chance because I am 22 still a virgin. One day as he was driving me home after work the phone rang and he answered the call in jittery form. I suspected it was a date. I do not ask him but it is a disrespect talking to another woman in my present. He calls everyday he never confesses or promises to marry me I am confused.

Janah

If you want him to call you pet’s name tell him what you want him to call you. Since you are still a virgin tell him and let him make a choice. And if you wish to give him chance according to your text let him know it is against your doctrine but you are accepting because of the love you have for him and tell him to promise you of what you want from him. So if you are satisfy with his answer I wish you well but if it is other way round kiss him goodbye and wait for someone that will love and date you alone. If you really love him and you are expecting him to discuss something like marriage with you, it is important to let him know what hurt you and what make you happy. This is part of courtship but if you are hiding your feeling it can cost you a lot in future. Good luck!

She said I am a brother

Lovelines

I love a girl with all my heart when I approached her she said she regards me as her brother since the guy we both went to her place is like a brother to her.

Majang

Well the girl like you not that she hate you. You can only add more love juice and ingredient to your chat with her. Try to let her know that we are all brothers and sisters in this world but what you want her to do is to forget about the brother and replace it with love. Still if she bent on the word brother, give her more time but always care for her. One day she might be yours but don’t put your entire mind until she change and dance to the lyrics of your love sound. Good luck!

He shouts at me always

Lovelines

I have a boyfriend who often shouts at me and talk about his ex girlfriend since we have been dating. I am 18 and our relationship is 5 months old.

Saadatou

Why don’t you read the handwriting on the wall? If a man you love for five months still don’t know how to treat you than to shout and bully you with the talk of his ex, well it is showing you lack of interest. Talk to yourself about why he shout and bully you. If you find out that you are the cause try to correct and behave yourself but if this is not cause by you I think you have to step down till he will realize his mistake. But trying to make the relation work because you love him will not do you of any good but sorrow. Good luck!

I am a graduate but he’s illiterate

Lovelines

I am 21 and a graduate my man is 24 but not educated we are very much in love that settling down is our mission statement but my parents don’t welcome the idea, please help.

M-Rendab

As a graduate your parents want you to go with graduate. There is nothing bad in this. Still if you want to marry uneducated man it is still not bad. But whoever you want to marry let the person know that you are a graduate and sooner or later you are going to face a job that will be challenging this might warrant your stay out late, change in character (not most), friends, nature and some other things. Therefore most men will not understand this especially the illiterate one though because of jealousy some educated men may not understand. But the main is for you to talk to your parents and let them know that you both love each other and that you have think about the consequence of marrying to an illiterate. Good luck!

My identity is still pending in his family

Lovelines

I am 21 dating a guy of 24. He is well known in my family whilst my identity is still pending in his family. Each time I come up with the topic to introduce me to his family he will reply very soon that I should not worry. But he wants me to get pregnant and bear him a child. And he is jobless.

M-B

You have a choice, it is either you fall into his ‘very soon promise’ or you withdraw from this relationship. I do not see something robust out of this because a man without a job and not planning to get one want you to bear him a child without introduce you to a single member of his family as a friend, fiancé, or something tangible. My friend if you succumb to his wish you are heading for doom. How do you think he will take care of you and the child when you have it, who will welcome you to his family because you are unknown to them? It is your life but watches and thinks before you leap. Good luck!

I am pregnant…but I want to run away

Lovelines

I am a young girl of 20 having a boyfriend who loves me so much and I love him too. We have been dating for 3 years but now I am pregnant for him. I have decides to run away from my parents and come back after giving bath because if they find out that I am pregnant my dad will send me out of his house forever. Tell me should I stay or go on with this decision?

Mabel

You can not run away from your shadow. The earlier you stay and tell them what has happened to you the better. Nobody can postpone the evil day, if there is anyone who can you should have been able to protect the pregnancy from occurring. So confide in your mother to convince your father for you. And if you know that it is your sister or brother that will listen to you and understand how you are feelings talk to them. Show remorse to your parents about this unexpected development in your life and promise to be a good daughter they will forgive you. If you run away it will not solve the problem but will make you a disobedience and wayward daughter. Also no one pray for bad event what about if things got complicated for you, what will you do? So do not run away but talk to your mother in a sober manner they will listen to you. Good luck!  

My family wants me to marry a cousin

Lovelines

It is almost six years that I have been dating my lovely girlfriend and I wish to marry her. But my family is not making thing easy for me they wants me to marry my cousin sister. When I told my girlfriend about this she advised me to marry my cousin that she will wait but I have the feeling that she is going to marry another man. However, I want to share a family with her.

Manlafi

It is a pity that you do not know what you want. Is it that you still really want to marry your beloved girlfriend or you want to take in your cousin as ordained by your family? Think of what you want because you did not specified whether you accepted to your family or to your girlfriend suggestion. You are only feeling about her having to marry another man and your wish to share a family with her. So call and tell Lovelines what you really want for possible or nearest suggestion. Good luck!

My brother doesn’t want to see my boyfriend

Lovelines
 
I am 18 dating a boy, 19. We are overly in love but my brother hate seeing me with this boy and always treat me badly and wanted to extend it to the boy as well. I love this boy so much that I will sacrifices anything for him as the love of my heart, because my brother runs after girls more than anyone of his age.

Rashy

Such is life a murderer will never allow someone to play with sword or gun in his presence, because he knows that they are dangerous weapon. So try to talk to your boyfriend to stay away from your brother, meaning you should have a quiet and nice place to always meet possibly in his house, friends’ house or love garden pending the time you will be able to make your brother understand that you have reach the age of adult suffrage. Talk to your mum or elder sister to talk him to avoid confrontation between you, your boyfriend and him. Good luck!

Dad says no visit

Lovelines

I am having a date with a girl that loves me very much but my dad said she should not visit me.

Lamin

It is unfortunate that you do not tell me the age of you two, your occupations and how often do you normally see each other before your father’s decree. So try to agree with your father first and know the reason why he decreed that. If I know the reason I can say almost exactly how you can soften his mind against this his decision. Good luck!

He seeks for my forgiveness

Lovelines

I am 18 in love with a 20-year-old man. I love him so much but he always cheats on me. We broke up but he is still asking for forgiveness, I do not know if he still loves me.  

Fanta

Since you still love him why don’t you forgive him and tell him what you like and dislike in a relationship. If you do that and ready to abide with it then move on with him and keep reminding him that no more cheat any day you suspect cheat it will be the end. He still comes back to you because you are special so give him a second chance. Good luck!

She asccused me of not been serious

Lovelines

I am 25-year-old it is over 2 years that I have been dating my gal.  Recently she got changed and accused me of not serious with the relationship while I never joke with her because she is my heart. I tried to convince her to make her trust me but all to no avail.  

Ttajo

You are to have a face-to-face discussion with her, doing this she will be able to tell you what she really wants from you. When she said you are not serious with the relationship she knows why she said that and you know too.  It is either you do not think of it that way or you are not ready for it. So have a heart-to-heart talk you will understand her and then make a fast decision if you really love her. Good luck!

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Lovelines

Should I keep waiting for a man for 6 years when this man is already married and have a child with a white lady in USA…

(No name)

Your text is not complete. For quick answer you can call Lovelines. Good luck!

Ready for love

Lovelines

I am a lady of 31 I really need a discipline, Allah fearing, honest, educated and caring man that I will spend the rest of my life with. Non-Gambian Muslim will be too good. Lovelines, do you think men like that still exist?

Fatoumatta

Wait and see with Allah all things are possible. Are you lovely caring non-Gambian Muslim man that matches up with the above? Okay why don’t you make a call to Lovelines or send an email. She could be yours - Good luck!

I have very strong feelings for her

Lovelines

I met a girl at my work place, the moment I saw her I have very strong feelings for her. I asked for her telephone number she gave it to me. I called her but she told me that I am not invited in her house because she doesn’t want to see me. I am wonder why she gave me her number, name and her address when I asked for it. I don’t know what to do because I really love this girl.

Sirifoe

This kind of love is a fantasy. That she gave you her particulars doesn’t mean she wanted to date you. But she can with times if you do not rush her. At the same time you should have try as much as possible before she left you the day you met her and hit the nail on the edge that could have put her suspense and give you a clue of what you will hear from her. She told you not to come to her house now because she knew what you intend to do that you never say out. If you want to continue try to break her defense mechanism. So, start the game on your phone till you are able to encompass her mind then it will become express way for you. Good luck!

Lovelines

I chased a girl for a very long time before she accepted. I observed that she love me but she is complain that I don’t love her hence I told her that I have called off my former relation. Since I first told her that I was engaged with a lady before she succumbed to me.

Yellocy

What you need to tell her is that you really love her and you don’t want to cheat on her. Beside it is good for both of you to be honest to each other. And whatever you did is for the comfort of both of you because you can not afford loosing her or having another lady in a corner with her or keeping two women at a time. Pet her with sugar coated mouth as much as you possibly can. Good luck!

My mind goes to her always

Lovelines

I was dated a girl for one year before I dumped her. Now I think of her always and I don’t know what to do?

Bayo

You know what to do, do not hide your feeling. Why don’t you walk straight to her with a rose flower and tell her sorry that she should forgive you and let the love start from where it was hanging. So reconcile if you want your loneliness to disappear. Good luck!

We quarrel every two, two days

Lovelines

I was married since 2005 to a girl I love who also love me but we never compromise with each other. Every two, two days we must quarrel. What is your advice?

Domfree

Marriage is popular because it combines the maximum of temptation with the maximum of opportunity. Also it is like a cage; one sees the birds outside; desperate to get in and those inside desperate to get out. Because it is a desperate thing to do, for some youth who never watch their steps enroll in it.

I do not believe that you still love each other as you said. Because if does one of you might have think that since 2005 till date what do you normally quarrel about, did you tolerate or accept each other, do you endure and patient with your partner? Have you enter into dialogue and settle your problem peacefully without it lingering in minds for sometimes. Has both of you think of the legacy you are trying to lay down for your children if there is any?  Therefore call your wife to sit and find solution to your problem that is the only advice which means individual should search his or her self and revisit your attitudes. Good luck!

She told me that her marriage is over

Lovelines

I am 24 deeply in love with two girls. My childhood girlfriend that we both date for four years was one day forced to marry a semester. When she confirmed this to me we break the relationship. I was not myself for 2-year until I met another girl who dearly loves and cherish me. It is now after 3 years of my ex marriage we met (again) and she told me that her marriage is over; she’s divorce, and she want to come back to my life. I let her know that I am dating another person but she said she does not care. I finally let her in. I am looking for help.

Abubaccar

You did not surprise me, because there are many men outside there that are man but not man enough when it come to woman’s matter. You are one of them. There is no help somewhere than your ability to control your mind/heart to conquer your fantasy. If a lady in love with you can marry to another man either willingly or unwillingly leaving you without your consent because of any circumstance, or later come back because it is over between her and the husband and you accept her back, you will remain as his hands towel forever. A lady, who was there when she abandoned you for a semester, does that mean you want to dump her or start cheating on her. Think wise do not become a woman wrapper. Tell her to go back to her husband or marry another man and be of good friend. But if you like to eat a reminiscent food, continue with her but sooner or later she will dump you again. Good luck!

I don’t know her well

Lovelines

There is a girl that always looks at me and I am sure deep down her heart she is dying to go out with me. The obstacle is that I don’t know her very well.  

Sambou

If you have any feeling for her do not wait until you know her very well, because delay is dangerous. As she is eyeing you, a man is at the corner eyeing her as well. So press the button if you feel the itch in your heart. Good luck!

She is the only one I dreams about

Lovelines

I have been following a girl for over 2 years still she doesn’t accept me to be her boyfriend. She is the only girl I love because I always dream of her.

Jammah

I will ask you to stop exaggeration and free yourself from love imagination. If you have been following a woman for the past two years without her given you the green light, please leave her alone and chase another girl. Stop seeing her in your dream so that she will not lead you into temptation. Remember dream is sometime fool. I will encourage you to look for other beautiful and nice lady when she sees you cruise around with some beautiful and better chic than her she will envy you and might likely give you a chance. Good luck!

I am thinking of how to chase him

Lovelines

I am 25 dating a man who is 10 years older than I. I love him like that but he is not ready to marry now. Something came up as I saw and start to think about a man whom we never sit and chat together in the past. I think am falling in love with this man but he is not aware of my attraction to him. For a long time now I have been thinking of how to chase him, because he is my life, the only word in my mouth and the man I see in my dreams. But I really need a responsible man who will love and care about me. How can I go about this?

Habibatou

All mankind love a lover because love is all we have, the only way that each can help the other. So she who has never loved has never lived. Therefore if the man dating you is not ready to get marry and you wanted to marry at your age there is nothing bad if you express yourself to someone that you admired. It does not mean who make the first move but what matter most is respect and love. Should in case you really love this man whom you said is your life, what you need to do is to study him and always engage him with some minor and serious chats to test his behavior and getting more knowledge about him. If you are satisfied with him, pass the ball to him in a dribbling manner; ask about his love life and his current girlfriend. Ask him for a stroll and walk very closer to him. Hold is hand very tight. If you don’t understand give a direct call to Lovelines. Good luck!

I will do something very badif my mum doesn’t allow me to marry

Lovelines

I want to get married but my mum said I should finish school. Presently I am in grade 11 going to grade 12. If my mum doesn’t allow me to get marry I will do something very bad. Please help me.  

Jaliya

I do not think that you need a help. Although I know that you are being disturbed by your age and lack of ambition in life at the same time under the influence of sensation. It is always like that when a young girl or boy just started body chemistry experimentation. But it is better that you listen to your mother who wanted you to be an achiever in your life. Not all glitter is gold. Have you ever think that all those boys or your boyfriend whom you are running after now can marry you today and divorce you tomorrow because of what? First, she will consider you as a disobedience wife (because you have no respect for your mum), two, as a school dropout, three, as a young girl without future ambition, forth, as a wayward girl-no matter how you wish to satisfy him and proof to loyal, fifth, dependant and liability and many more. He will have another girlfriend with you that is he will cheat on you because you are both young and you ran after him. If you do something silly or very bad you are the one to suffer or
face the consequence.

Think and think very well of what you want to do with your life. Your mum will not go with you to your husband place but it is you and only you with what you are will go. Marriage is a desperate thing, when a woman gets married; it’s like jumping into a hole in the ice in the middle of winter: you do it once and you remember it the rest of your days either good or bad. Note that, "in marriage, a man becomes slack and selfish, and undergoes a fatty degeneration of his moral being," says by Robert Louis Stevenson. I wish you listen to your mother because she is more experienced in it than you. Good luck!

He likes to use and dump woman

Lovelines

There is a guy who chased me for some months before I agreed to be his girlfriend. All I gathered from his friends is that he always uses and dumps woman because he doesn’t love. Now I am deeply in love with him, what can I do?

Sahi

It is your duties to mount up a defense that will enable you know the type of a guy he is. At the same time to know if the friends are just talk blasphemy against him. Don’t give yourself away so quick. Use your brain if you want to know the truth. Find out about his past girlfriends and know what caused break up between him and them. Doing this you will be able to decide which path to follow. Good luck!

She is pregnant for me by force

Lovelines

I am worried and don’t know what to do. I have been dating a girl for 3-year. She does tell me that her friends said if we do not get a child I will never marry her. She listened to her friends and she gets pregnant for me. Now are parents says I must marry her by force. That statement hurt my dad and said it will never happen and I myself will not hence I don’t trust her anymore because if I marry her she will continue to listen to people outside. Can you say something before I do something stupid?

Lehjud

You amused me. Why can’t you listen to yourself and talk to your dad if your dad doesn’t want to talk to you because you have made a mistake instead of getting hurt because of what your girlfriend’s parents have said. You might not think this is your mistake and harbinger but it is. Since you know you will not marry her, and you feel that she listens to friends why don’t you withdraw from the relation long ago when she does tells you what the friends has suggested to her. This is a real issue that you should have settled amicably as a mature guy and gal. Remember that she never force you to have sex with her but you were enjoying the excitement while she was busy planning because she is not a fool. In a nutshell, it has happened, try to reach a compromise. Tell your father the truth of the matter; he is only hurt because of the word force. Anyhow if you still don’t marry the girl, you can not erase being the father of the unborn child. Think over this because you can’t run away from your shadow. Good luck!

Her mother is my problem

Lovelines

I am a young man of 23 dating a girl of 20. She recently finished her grade 12.  I love her and we planned to marry but her mother against this. She said a man as chose her as future wife since she was young. Moreover, this man has been responsible for the payment of her school fees and upbringing up to date. I don’t want to lose this girl, what can I do?

Mamadi

You have no choice here than to give the girl sometime to decide on her own. You should have known better that she is being sponsor by a man before this time. It is also too early for you to be in love or rivalry contest. So find something better doing for yourself if she is meant for you, she will be yours. Marriage should not be the next agenda to two of you hence she just finished her school certificate examination. Think about how both of you will go to the university, work, and achieve. At your age (23/20) marriage should be secondary; the primary should be what to do to become educated and prosperous. But if you really mean to get her for yourself, ask the man to estimate what he has been spending on her so far and pay him back. Doing this her mother will have no choice than to allow you to marry her. Good luck!

One Musa Ceesay on Monday appeared before the Bundung Magistrates’ Court, presided over by Senior Magistrate Kumba Sillah – Camara, on charge of defilement of a girl, age 18, contrary to section 127, cap 10 volume 3 laws of the Gambia.

According to the particular of the offence, sometime in the month of October 2007, at Brufut, Kombo North the accused unlawfully had carnal knowledge a  teenage girl, Fatou Barrow, age 18.

When the case was called, Musa Ceesay pleaded not guilty.

Kaddy Demba, the mother of the teenage girl, when asked if she knew the accused person or if she could remember what had happened between her daughter and the accused person in the months of October and December 2007, she confirmed that she knew him, and she added that nothing was wrong with her daughter, only that she was pregnant.

At this juncture Senior Magistrate Sillah-Camara then granted the accused person bail in the sum of D100,000, with a Gambian surety who must furnish the court with his reachable contact address. Meanwhile, the case was adjourned to 17 June 2008, for continuation. Corporal 432 Njie represented IGP.

A two-day health education training program for nursing mothers, organised by the regional health management team at Bansang, recently ended at Kudang and Kerr Auldi villages in the Central River Region.

The aim of the training was to increase public awareness on the importance of clinic attendance by pregnant women and nursing mothers, according to officials.

In his remarks at the start of the training, Momodou Darboe, the regional public health nurse, said the essence of attending reproductive and child health (RCH) regularly during pregnancy was to let the maternal health workers monitor a woman’s pregnancy for normalcy and for the detection and management of any abnormality or complication.

He stated that the aim of the national reproductive and child health program was to promote positive outcome of pregnancies, meaning a healthy, happy mother in a sound mental state.  

For his part, Amadou Kanteh, the regional public health officer,  called on pregnant nursing mothers to visit clinics regularly so that their children receive the necessary immunization they are suppose to get before reaching the age of five. He urged the men folk to support their pregnant partners in terms of transportation so that they can best utilize the health facilities.